I read your comments in the attachment on your wife and your most recent hurt. I don't know if I have asked you this in the past, but do you ever respond...even scream back at her when you feel as though she has attacked you. There is a very valid place for this.
In being a "full person" we must have the freedom to be every part of our soul which exists. Our souls are meek and loving, but they also “throw the moneychangers out of the temple”! By this I mean...“be angry and sin not”.
I know for myself that I was trained to stuff my anger...but guess what? It came out in tears! Gradually as I began to understand my psyche I stopped blaming others for their offense and addressed them head on...most of the time. I still find myself in tears, but now it is rare instead of the norm.